Find Your Purpose, Find Your Voice

The Premise

Twice a year the earth stops arguing.

For one weekend in September, day and night meet at exactly the same length. Light and dark in equal measure. Not one winning. Not one losing. Both are right at the same time, for forty-eight hours, written into the sky. It is the best time to shed and look forward.

I have built my entire body of work on the idea that two contradicting ideas can be true simultaneously. That you can hold a STEM and Master's degree and practice magic and have lineage initiations. That nervous system science and ancestral practice are not in competition.

The Fall equinox is one of two times a year the cosmos agrees with me out loud.

Every soul comes on earth with a specific purpose. When you are not fulfilling that purpose, whatever you do in your life feels like it is missing something. That feeling you've been chasing? That's your soul's purpose.

The Arc

What Happens

Arrival

Friday · Sept 18

You arrive in the late afternoon at 5 p.m. You drop your bags in your room. You meet the women you'll spend the weekend with. Friday night we cook together. An ancestral dinner I lead in the kitchen, with my co-facilitators and any of you who want to be in the kitchen with us. The recipes are from the manual you will be given, all based on my Phoenician cooking spells that you will get in a new grimoire. The dinner has been on a stove somewhere for four thousand years and on Friday it is on ours.

After dinner we gather outside by the fire (weather permitting). I hand you your manual. It is the full spell recipe book and the manual you will work from all weekend, and it is yours to take home. Everything we do this weekend is in those pages. You will not have to remember anything. You will only have to be present.

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The Deep Work

Saturday · Sept 19

Breakfast, some movement with the elements, and then we open with a Hiolani meditation, the meditation practice of the light that drops you below the level of language into your actual body. Most retreats start with introductions, we've already covered those over dinner. We start with arrival, the real kind.

Then we work. Hoʻokuʻu is the Hawaiian release practice for the emotional patterns and limiting decisions that you have been carrying without consent, often since childhood. We do not talk about them. We metabolize them. There is a difference, and your nervous system knows it.

We break for lunch.

In the afternoon, Hoʻoponopono. The forgiveness practice that has been flattened into a four-word pop wellness mantra for the last twenty years, and that I will give you in its actual form, from my lineage, in the room.

We close the day cooking dinner together again. Saturday's meal is the second of the two we cook ourselves and we learn how to clear and bless our food. It's also time for bonding and more questions.

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Integration

Sunday · Sept 20

Breakfast. A morning walk or swim in the lake to let the body process what the work moved.

Then the ʻŌpua energy massages, which I administer personally, one woman at a time. I am initiated into ʻŌpua (energy clouds) from the Kaua Alihi lineage, formalized in the 1850s. You will not receive this work from a spa anywhere on this continent.

We break for lunch.

In the afternoon, the Find Your Purpose exercise. I built it from 8 years of NLP and hypnotherapy practice, and I have run it with women who left it knowing exactly what they were doing with the next decade of their lives. You will leave with that clarity, in writing, in your manual.

We close with an embodied meditation that becomes a dance party. The equinox is a threshold but it is also a celebration. Your body needs to know the work is finished.

You leave Sunday afternoon with the manual, a yoga mat, and the version of yourself you came to find.

Everything Included

What's Yours

Accommodation

Two Nights Lakefront

A six-bedroom cottage on a tranquil bay of Lake Muskoka. Sleeps up to 11 guests and three facilitators. Linens, towels, and parking included.

Nourishment

Every Meal

From Friday dinner through Sunday lunch. Friday and Saturday dinners cooked together as part of the work. Breakfasts, lunches, and snacks catered by a local Muskoka chef so the deep work is fully supported. Non-alcoholic beverages throughout (you are welcome to bring your own alcohol but it is not recommended for the work we do). Dietary restrictions accommodated.

Practice

The Manual

Your full spell recipe book. Every practice from the weekend, every practice we do with an explanation and Find Your Purpose exercise. Yours to keep.

Transmission

ʻŌpua Energy Massage

One-on-one ʻŌpua energy massage administered by Mary as an initiate and a master hypnotherapist.

Materials

All Ritual Supplies

Every material for every practice across the weekend. A recipe spell book and manual. A yoga mat, and a surprise, yours to keep.

The Work

Forty-Eight Hours

Led by Mary with co-facilitator support. Friday night through Sunday afternoon. The full arc.

Not included: travel to and from the cottage; alcohol (we prefer to keep the container dry); anything else you might want to bring.

Who This Is For

You have done the reading. You have done the therapy. You have done the breathwork app and the journal and the cleanse. You can explain the vagus nerve at a dinner party.

And there is still something underneath all of that that has not been touched.

This is for the woman who is tired of translating herself. Tired of being the most spiritual person at work and the most skeptical person at the yoga studio. Tired of doing the work alone because the people who do this kind of work make her roll her eyes and the people she respects don't know this kind of work exists.

This is also for the woman who has not done any of that, and who is finally ready.

Investment

Choose Your Room

Room	Early Bird	Full Price
Private King 1 spot	$2,500	$2,800
Private Queen 2 spots	$2,200	$2,500
Shared Room 5 spots	$1,800	$2,050

Early bird holds for the first 5 seats sold or until July 31, whichever comes first.

Bringing a partner or friend? The King and Queen rooms can be booked as a couple. First guest pays the room rate. Second guest pays $1,800. Maximum 11 guests in the cottage total.

All prices CAD. For our American friends: $1,800 CAD ≈ $1,310 USD. $2,500 CAD ≈ $1,820 USD.

Deposit: $500 holds your seat. Balance due August 15, 2026.

Refund policy: Full refund minus $150 admin fee if cancelled before July 15. 50% refund between July 15 and August 15. After August 15, seat is non-refundable but transferable to another person you nominate.

Book Your Seat

About

Mary

I work where most people are told to pick a side.

Phoenician blood lineage, with a STEM degree, Master's degree in Education, and lineage initiations living in the same body without contradiction. I spent two decades inside science and credentialism before I went to Cyprus to train in NLP and ended up in Hawaii, where I truly embraced my purpose. I found the light inside the nucleus of an atom.

I came back and built a body of work at the intersection of nervous system science, ancestral practice, and the rigor most spiritual spaces refuse to do. At @thesteministwitch I reach over a million accounts a month with content that refuses to choose between brain and blood. My life purpose is to teach women how to use energy to come home to themselves and stop shrinking. It's the remembering of the feminine.

This retreat is what I do when the screen goes off.

What I hold: a Bachelor in Natural and Applied Sciences in Computer Science, a Master's degree in Education, NLP and Hypnotherapy Master Practitioner certifications. Huna magic initiation through Dr. Matt James including ʻŌpua symbols in the Kaua Alihi lineage, and additionally into Hoʻoponopono, Hoʻokuʻu, and Keawe from a second Hawaiian lineage.

I can't wait to meet you in person x
Mary

Questions

Before You Book

I have never done anything like this. Am I in over my head?

No. The container is built for women who have done this kind of work for years and women who have never done it. The practices meet you where you are. I have run this work with corporate executives and first-time meditators in the same room. It works.

I am skeptical of "witch" content. Is this woo?

The work is grounded in nervous system science, NLP and hypnotherapy, and ancestral practice transmitted through verified lineage. Nothing in this retreat asks you to believe anything. It asks you to do the work and notice what happens in your body. Skepticism is welcome. It is often a sign of intelligence, not resistance.

Will I be sharing a bed?

The shared rooms have separate beds. You will share a room with one or two other women, not a bed. If you want a private room, book the Queen or the King.

What if I can't come?

Stay on the interest list. More of these to come in the future. There is no rush.